Stop Saying “I Have a Boyfriend”

“Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.”

“This amazingly puts into one sentence what I have been attempting to explain to ex-boyfriends and friends (male and female) for years, mostly unsuccessfully. The idea that a woman should only be left alone if she is “taken” or “spoken for” (terms that make my brain twitch) completely removes the level of respect that should be expected toward that woman.”

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Great article. Men are not entitled to grab/touch/creep/assume as they please just because you are single, and I don’t want to mislead them into thinking that the only reason I am not welcoming their advances is because I am married. “No thanks” means “no thanks.” “Don’t touch” means “don’t touch.” It’s pretty simple, really…

Stop Saying “I Have a Boyfriend”

I’m really not sure how I feel about this article that a Facebook friend posted condemning Beyonce for her sexy performance during the Superbowl.

I’m so torn on the issue of female sexuality. On one hand, I agree we are overly sexualized, and that creates all kinds of problems – from body issues in girls, to objectification and abuse by men. On the other, I think it’s a positive thing for women to embrace their sexuality and be equal to men in their sexual confidence, especially after so many generations of repression – not to be hidden away like some forbidden fruit. It is natural, after all…?

Religion tends to demonize sex, and while I agree the context of marriage/monogamy is the healthiest way to do it, I disagree that it should be repressed or portrayed as anything close to satanic (yes, this writer actually evokes Satan’s name in describing Beyonce’s image…)

Like many things in our human condition, sex can be abused… but I grew up fearing it, and was overly self-conscious and under appreciative of my body, thanks in part to the religious approach. Modesty has its place, as does the celebration of the female body – and I guess I’m just unsure of where to draw the line sometimes.